It’s Wednesday, April 29th and I go about serving the gay agenda the way every other lesbian is instructed, by getting my annual pelvic exam, picking up dry cleaning, and anxiously awaiting the news feed updates for SCOTUS.
“The Notorious RBG in on fire today”, my friend quips online, and I nod my head in approval. Certainly, she has the power to eviscerate the arguments against marriage equality single-handedly. Unfortunately, she has at least 5 others to convince.
In some ways, I’m amazed that the tide turned so quickly towards Marriage Equality in the past 5 years alone. In other ways, I am flabbergasted by the rules that are applied to gay and lesbian Americans that don’t seem to apply to the rest of our citizenry.
Let me get out my handy Yardstick of Equality and show you:
The Yardstick of Marriage states: “Marriage is a sacred institution between one man and one woman.”
If this is the rule, this supposes two realities: One holds that the idea of Marriage is a religious covenant and held to the same biblical terms of its religion, and the other idea that religion dictates the terms and conditions of marriage. If this were true: Atheists could not be granted a marriage, those of different religions or those in conflict could not be married, and due to its tenets, divorce would not be allowed, much less 3 more marriages, 2 mistresses, and a guest shot on the Bachelor. We may be married under the religious direction of a pastor, a priest, a rabbi, or other spiritual leader, but the final legitimacy as far as the Government is concerned, is done when a marriage license has been obtained and registered with the state.
As long as we are listening to the Moral Majority: Here are a couple of other gems the Church has advocated against: Divorce, Birth Control, Giving up Slavery, Marriage between races, the Right of Women to Vote, The right of Blacks to vote, Evolution, and my favorite; the heretical notion that the Earth revolves around the Sun!
The Second Yardstick says we must be able to procreate to be a ‘legitimate marriage’. I don’t know about you, but this concept smacks a little too close to insuring good breeding stock, and I’m not in a hurry to have my marriage sanctified by the Food and Drug Administration. This isn’t a 4H Club. We are people, not poultry! I don’t see anyone else having to meet a standard upon an agreement to marriage that insists you produce a baker’s dozen of offspring.
In fact, this double standard would also be a slippery slope for any family that used IVF or were otherwise unable to conceive or anyone past menopause. What about couples that don’t want children? Would they then be forced to breed or forfeit their marriage? My grandmother found the love of her life in her 60’s and the thought of her missing out of genuine happiness because she couldn’t produce a child from that union is ludicrous.
When it comes to gays and lesbians, “Family Planning” is our specialty: every child is a wanted child, there are no accidental pregnancies, and we provide a loving home to kids who would otherwise be recycled through the foster care system.
The Final Yardstick says the States decide who gets to enjoy life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Let’s see how well that went for slavery. Did we wait for the slave owning states to come around to seeing how owning and selling other human beings wasn’t perhaps the best way to treat people?
The 14th Amendment came about in 1868 as a way to expand equal protections of African Americans after the conclusion of the Civil War, who had been seen as unequal under the law. It states:
“All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.” (End of Section 1, of the 14th amendment)
Since its inception, the 14th amendment has successfully expanded the rights of minority groups across the United States, such as:
- Validating The Civil Rights Act of 1866 which expanded the rights of African Americans after the Civil War
- Brown v. Board of Education in 1954 which expanded the rights of African Americans to be educated without racial segregation.
- Loving v. Virginia (1967) which overturned interracial marriage bans, and ruled that “Freedom to marry” was an essential civil right. (http://bit.ly/1HSJqbA )
It is this expansion of civil rights won in 1967 that afforded Mr. Loving to lawfully marry his beloved, a woman of another color than he, and share in the sanctity and protection of marriage. It is no small note that they have celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary. Strangely enough, no racially synonymous couple has since come forward to show how the Loving’s marriage has marred or ruined their own.
In each instance where Love or Freedom came forward to be judged as the law of the land, under the 14th Amendment, Love and Freedom won!
Martin Luther King, Jr. once adapted a quote by Theodore Parker by saying “The arc of the Moral Universe Is long, but it bends toward Justice”.
While we ourselves are being measured by our worth and our ability to maintain a marriage equal to those of our friends, our family, and our neighbors; I believe it is only a matter of time before we will all come to the natural conclusion of justice, and that we too will enjoy the pursuit of happiness.